Whether you’re an avid reader or this is your first time here, welcome! Our typical blog content is packed with invaluable information about connecting the dots in the hiring process to grow your company. But from time to time, we get a chance to change it up and share stories about our outstanding DotConnect team. We love celebrating our people here because we wouldn’t exist without their continued support and hard work.
At DotConnect, we believe that everyone’s story is unique, and sharing that story can empower others and promote growth. Life is one of the greatest teachers, and sharing our experiences can significantly impact the world around us.
Today, we are sharing the story of our fearless leader, founder, and CEO, Dom Farnan. Dom’s vision for our company helps us stay on track and provide exceptional services for our clients. According to her, she is “a humble student of the world, a writer, a deep thinker, and Enneagram 1, a lover of the ocean, a mother, and a conscious connector.”
Come along as Dom shares her story of self-healing after burnout. She will be the first to tell you that self-work isn’t always an easy process, but it is well worth the reward of discovery and inner peace.
Inner-Work Takes Time and Effort
Throughout 2020, Dom had made great strides toward healing in her life but was still in the early stages of her spiritual healing. She had made it through an economic shutdown, achieved an alt MBA, and consistently met with her coach, Angie Wisdom.
During one of their coaching sessions in January of the following year, Angie suggested that Dom read The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle. Reading this book sparked Dom’s desire to dive deeper into her spiritual journey.
The things she learned from Tolle’s book sparked a desire to dive deeper into her consciousness. At first, this inward pull felt strange to Dom, but she allowed herself to be open to the process and let that feeling move her. While taking these first steps forward in her journey, she found that a force directed her path outside of herself — the universe guided her.
At this moment, Dom felt connected to a divine source that showed her a bigger picture. And this feeling guided her through these early stages of spiritual healing and enlightenment. Shortly after feeling this connection, she felt an intense call to visit the ocean.
Dom is a Southern California native, and the ocean was an integral part of her life for years. However, between living at her current home in New Jersey and shelter-in-place orders, she could not see the ocean throughout the entire pandemic. During one of their coaching sessions, Dom let Angie know about this desire and that she just felt too busy to make it happen.
Driving to the beach and seeing the vast horizon of the ocean in front of her gave Dom the space she needed in her mind and heart to see herself clearly. Amid this moment of self-realization, she understood that she and her partner were on two different wavelengths at the time, and they needed to recenter their relationship.
Repairing Relationships Is Challenging
Dom found inspiration to take action in her life rather than let her surroundings remain unchanged between her coaching sessions with Angie and reading Eckhart Tolle’s book. This inspiration gave her the courage to speak with Gulliver, her partner, about their marriage’s unhealthy weight on her spirit.
This realization compelled Dom to walk downstairs and confront him about their lives and her desire to take steps toward healing in their relationship. Unfortunately, the response she received only amplified her current feeling of loneliness.
This interaction kept them from taking crucial steps toward healing in their marriage. And instead of ignoring the issues, Dom decided to prioritize her journey toward inner peace by making a challenging decision. The only solution she could see at that moment was asking her partner to leave.
Dom picked her son, Baxter, up from school on the first day of being on her own, and during the car ride home, Baxter let Dom know that he would show her how to take care of him because that was usually Daddy’s job and not hers. This statement pulled at her heart and revealed to Dom that her desire to excel professionally affected her connection with her son.
Later that day, Dom and Baxter developed a successful plan for the next couple of weeks. She then took on being both the worker and caretaker of her family. The following weeks of self-reliance opened her eyes to how her marriage enabled bad habits and helped her develop a clear vision of their need for change.
After a period of silence, Dom and Gulliver began reopening lines of communication, and over the next couple of weeks, they decided that he needed to come home. However, the caveat would be that they would stay sober and participate in marriage counseling until they reached a good place in their marriage.
The following steps of their journey toward a better marriage were challenging and, at times, overwhelming. The first few therapy sessions were incredibly intense and seemed to deepen the rift between them further. Dom felt like it was not resonating with her spirit, resulting in continued loneliness, but change for the better was on the horizon — they just couldn’t see it yet.
Spiritual Healing Happens When You Are Open to It
Shortly after their first few therapy sessions, Dom received an invitation to join a Conscious Leader’s Retreat in Tulum, Mexico. Initially, she felt like the timing couldn’t be worse. Dom and her partner had just started on their journey toward a better marriage, but she had a feeling that something profound may happen on this retreat. After discussing the retreat with her partner, they decided it was an opportunity that shouldn’t be ignored.
So, she followed the call to attend the retreat with Gulliver’s full support of the decision. Before making the trip, Dom set the intention to connect with her grandmother’s spirit for guidance and healing during the retreat. On the first day there, she found her connection during a sunrise meditation.
The rest of the week was an incredible experience for Dom, filled with healing, breathwork, creative play, meditation, and writing. These activities allowed her to reach deeper within herself and release the trauma she clung to for years.
While on the retreat, Dom also connected with a medicine woman who invited Dom and Gulliver to a plant healing ceremony in Costa Rica to help repair their marriage. She was intrigued, so she brought up the idea to Gulliver and was surprised by his openness to participate.
Over the next few days, they took a deep dive into their past — the trauma, resentment, hurt, and anger — and let it all go. They shed countless tears and released the things that had built walls between each other in their relationship. The result was a sensation of lightness and a renewed sense of love and compassion for one another. Ultimately, this feeling laid the new foundation to rebuild their marriage from the ground up.
Don’t Be Afraid to Start Your Journey to Inner Healing
We may try our best to ignore the things that cause brokenness in our lives, but pain, regret, and trauma affect everyone. To counteract those negative influences, everyone needs to journey toward inner healing. It will be a challenging road, but remaining steadfast on the path of inner work will help you become whole again.
Thanks for coming along with Dom on her journey toward inner peace and healing! We hope her experience influences you to take steps toward healing in your relationship with yourself and others. If you want to learn more about her journey toward healing, watch her presentations From Nowhere to Now Here and Blossoming After Burnout.