“Any action is often better than no action, especially if you have been stuck in an unhappy situation for a long time. If it is a mistake, at least you learn something. In which case, it’s no longer a mistake. If you remain stuck, you learn nothing.”
Inner-Work Takes Time and Effort
“I read the book and sat with thoughts, observations, and learning. I felt this new awareness [inside of me]. It made light bulbs go off in my head, and I felt this spark kind of flare up in my heart — a feeling that I hadn’t felt in a long time. It was a calling back home to spirit, the divine universe, God, or whatever you want to call it.”
“I was in a Core Group meeting in February, and our guide asked us questions about our goals, our purpose for the year, and what we’re setting out to do. And she asked, ‘Who’s setting the pace for you with these goals and purpose?’ I just remember jaws drop on the call as I said the universe was setting the pace for me.”
“Angie put me in check a little bit. She told me to get over myself, get in the car, and start driving, and that the only person who was too busy was my ego, ensuring that I wouldn’t create any joy in my life. So that’s what I did. I got in my car and went out to Montauk. That week quickly became one of the most pivotal weeks of my life.”
Repairing Relationships Is Challenging
“When we returned home the following week, it was Saturday afternoon, and something had come over me. I was sitting upstairs and just remember feeling like I had to say something because I wasn’t happy in our marriage anymore. I had had enough of the partying, drinking, and living like roommates. [That lifestyle] and the pandemic was all hitting me at the same time, … and I was feeling lonely in my marriage.”
“I told him that something’s gotta give — either we go to therapy, or we split up. He quietly walked away, and I cried harder. In my mind, I was thinking, 'Is he even listening to me? What the hell? Does he even care? Why won’t he talk to me?' I was so hurt and so angry, but in our normal way, we swept it under the rug, and I didn’t truly feel hurt or acknowledged.”
“I was terrified and unsure of what damage it might cause my son, but at the same time, I was going to stick with speaking my truth and holding my boundary. So [my partner] left for what felt like the longest two weeks of my life.”
“First, I knew I still loved him, but I wasn’t willing to settle for an unhealthy love anymore. Second, I knew that we were both responsible for the deterioration of our marriage over the years. And third, I knew whatever happened from this point on was because I was staying in line with my boundaries and my values.”
Spiritual Healing Happens When You Are Open to It
“As I walked toward the beach, I remember a big warm gust of wind wrapping around me as if I was being hugged. It was so strong, like the presence of a person. … I knew it was my grandma’s presence, and tears started streaming down my face. The tightness I had been carrying for so long relented, and I felt like I was home.”
“It was essentially a burning down of our old marriage and starting with a fresh one after going deep into healing work. … It was the first trip alone in 10 years, and we were terrified. Would this be a mistake? Would we fight the whole time? What would come up in our healing journey?”